Some guys are magnets for crazy. Yes, I agree, it should be said. People have all sorts of behavioral ticks that are not going to get diagnosed and certified by professionals. Then, probe for cheating because betrayal does make us momentarily crazy, and even homicidal. Then our first few years of marriage were quite difficult as she brought all of her high conflict, aggressive, manipulations and rage, home in the form of custody manipulations, boundary crossing, outrageous demands, vandalism etc. So before you call that girl crazy, ask yourself a few questions. Before cheater did his thing I warned him that his whinging hobby friend was in the prowl because he always complained about his mrs and tried to make her look unreasonable and controlling.
I mean, we knew each other since high school, so when we ran back into each other, I was celibate and so we got married after only 6 weeks. I stuck around for two more years. I dated a guy who I believe has extreme, untreated mental illness, plus sex addiction. So not giving any information is a red flag for me as well. So Laughing, and tell the truth, did you want Auntie to tell you while you were married? Before her death from cancer, she and I had some frank discussions about my parents marriage and what she hoped for me in a man.
When they give us that story we now do a little more investigating. So which came first, the mental illness or the cheating? A year off, to learn me and be ok in my skin. Said psychiatrist, after some hours, found nothing. She talks about how much she hates drama. He was devastated and I would catch him crying in his office.
The rage started because I dared call her employee. Most of the time they are providing an inaccurate impression of what happened, while also playing to what seems to be a societal trope that the ex usually a woman was unstable and we all know how no-fun that is. I'm not overly-emotional, you were just being a douchebag and I'm responding to that. For those of us who really had spouses with deep mental problems you seemed to have left yours, I didnt have that much sense and stayed way too long I can see how this advise seems ill-fitting to us, but our seriously mentally ill spouses are not who she is speaking of. None of this has anything to do with what you posted. If we fail each other, we, in turn, fail ourselves.
I am one of the ones whose fuckwit left me with 100% care of of the 5 children only 3 were minors at the time. Full-blown crazy, is being a cheater, making an attached life with a cheater man as a cheater woman and then learning that he is now cheating on you, and still staying with him and letting him live in your solely owned house years later is the first three words of this sentence. It would be like saying, he left because she had a physical illness. He manipulated her into voluntarily leaving. They are unaware that what they are seeing and hearing and doing—is not correct or real.
Then he would spend the hour discussing how out of control I was. Best wishes from one who has been there. I think that because she was with ex for so long, 10 years, and subject to his abuse as her first major relationship, coupled with her very troubled childhood, she adopted some very unhealthy coping mechanisms and is a sadly, still trying to overcome them. Indeed, every sunday night when their boys would return to her after a week with us, around 9pm her texts would start. Age, hormonal changes men have them too , not feeling accomplished, concerns about image and a number of family and friend deaths all exacerbated these traits and brought out the worst in him. He tried to fix what h could with a very limited understanding of what was happening. The poor woman was placed on medications for being bi polar and the root of her problems was probably never accessed.
He decided that his best action plan was to get involved with someone else, while we were still living in the same house and divorce proceedings not even begun, rubbed it in my face and abandoned our daughter in the process. I spend many days during our 18 years hearing about her irrational fears. Susana Ramírez Men call women crazy for two reasons. Lillian, just be honest and open with your boyfriend about it. There was no actual mental illness there, at least not one with a main symptom of paranoia! One evening while my now-wife were getting to know each other, I was prepared to disclose to her the details of why my marriage failed. I am not convinced that would have been fair, although I understand why that particular red flag exists. Ask me how I know… The hell I have gone through with my son.
And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen. How the hell do you even answer that? I still resent that he is with Schmoopie but if they ever break up and he finds a different girlfriend, then I will hope he has gotten over it and can be a decent partner again. I know that people are unhappy and do fall out of love but I think smart cheaters also try use those excused and try to fall into that category too, at least I know mine did. And sharing the facts can lift that shame and put it back where it belongs. And if your ex describes you as that Crazy Bitch? I recall , while working in nursing, this one psychiatrist who when called upon to do a psych consult on patients, always women in the cases she assessed , she always, always, always, labelled the patient as bipolar! Then a respectful person will speak of it in a respectful way. She could not handle what her illness was doing to him.