I did not see her for several months, then one day she returned to meditation class, her face aglow. Can you tell the truth from a lie? He subsequently founded the and now teaches vipassana meditation with an emphasis on living the dharma in daily life. Leaving expectations out of it makes everything more direct. One foreign students complain about a rat movement over his room and he cannot sleep at all. As you have seen, there is nothing to be gained from a mind filled with expectation.
In order to feel the tickle that reaching and accomplishing an expectation causes, you have to experience and endure frustration. Expectations are so insidious that you can persist in maintaining them even after you have clear evidence that they are unfounded. To expect good is to trust that God is good and God never fails, that is why hope will never disappoint ultimately. Keep your mind free from all the unwanted thoughts that would sabotage your relationship, and you will realise that you develop a sense of peace in your relationship that will help you keep all the expectations at bay. In other words expectation is actually like any goal to us , without goals we do not really have any reason to do work. But one day, loving that someone suddenly doesn't feel easy any more.
When Beth's plans were derailed and an expectation of a happy, exciting time transformed itself into the reality of a time of concern and stress, she was able to respond with equanimity. I have plenty of opinions and points of view. But when it does not happen at the expected time or in the expected manner, then what results is a feeling of fear. One of the few things in life we control is our reaction to things. If you create a list of expectations instead, you will miss the moment to moment situations that come up in relationships and how to handle them.
Your mind is open and inspired in this moment. Every time you serve, you get immediate satisfaction. When you hold no expectations, you are committing the outcome to the Lord. Loving without expectations means being okay enough with yourself to love someone else. I had to do it time to time depend on other servers availability. One should have a relaxed and confident expectation that the desire will come true.
It is not that you must avoid making plans or moving toward goals; it is that you don't become defined by those expectations or attached to the outcome. Many times they lead you to say unkind words, act unskillfully, or make poor decisions. Expect to Stumble In freeing yourself from expectations, you are likely to encounter a number of challenges. Sarah is a participant in a weekly vipassana meditation class I conduct. Let go of expectations so that you can surrender to the process and let the outcome fall in place in the right way at the right time. We simply do our best work and the chips fall where they may. In fact it was the largest participation for a single retreat in that center.
We had to send one person back home as no more beds were available. Look for Possibilities One distinction is critical for you to understand if you are to work with expectations: the difference between expectations and possibilities. We spend a lot of time in the class trying to understand how we create much of our own suffering by getting caught in an endless cycle of desire and attachment. When you love someone, you take the person as a whole with all their qualities. And expectations tee up those reactions. I, on the other hand, thought her practice was going great. Things will happen the way they are design to not the way we expect them to.
Expectation is actually the major cause to do work as said by Arjuna. What expectations get in your way? Your mind is clear and less reactive, and you make better decisions. I was able to accompany 10 others with me for this retreat. You are strict with yourself — even when you want to give in to the impulses of others —because you know that what you want and what you need is not always the same thing. Most important, it can inspire and orient you in how to live in the moment. And expectation slides out the window. Like telling you this secret, to love without expectations, will instantly set you free.
I want you to let everyone in the class know. As you have to work while opportunities to meditate you will learn how to switch your time and meditate among your daily life. Like we study because we expect to score good marks, We fight war in expectation to win it, or we love someone in expectation that we will be loved by him too etc. However, at the point in time when you wanted to take the relationship into a next level, there was a change in the role and responsibility for both of you. But it shewed her how reasonable and just my expectations were; and that I was no encroacher. Hoping and praying this guy will stay in the steel gated fenced boundary of expectations you set up for him! Without preconceived ideas to limit your perception, you are able to accept what comes your way as part of the solution to realizing what you truly desire in life. But the truth is that whatever has to happen, will happen, whether we are okay with it or not.
At the end of the day, you have two choices in love — one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away. When you date without expectation, you tend just to be yourself because you have no motives yet or any reason to fear rejection. I find in those who make such claims a strong presence of denial, which is usually rooted in past disappointments and fear of failing to have expectations met. If you are into meditation, you will quickly realize bringing practice in to your daily life is the biggest challenge. Love is a feeling like no other but it is also one that can be tagged to a million things.
Normally first 2 days were the busiest time for me. This tends to hold true for a couple of reasons. Every outcome can serve to move you towards greater realization of your desires. All we can do is appreciate who we have when we have them, and let them go when we do not. It is often not serenity that is needed by a student but the ability to stay present when the mind is caught in a storm.