People who are bitter are often blind to how others love and care about them. I spend four years to recover from this trauma but he just forgot what had happened and live a good life. They are all about being miserable and making other people miserable. You are obviously a very intelligent driven man who has pushed himself hard his whole life and has never faced this sort of letdown. Is it really a crime to feel angry, bitter, non perfect, and sometimes to feel hateful? You can never take back words once they are said. Well now to do more extensive research in this area of my life. If you are dealing with a bitter friend who you spend 7 days a week with, cut down that time.
It isn't fair, but I can say that is not the answer. Maria, thanks for this honest sharing. Sometimes bitterness lingers when we let people overstep boundaries that we do have power to set. I am over 40, never married and no children — all of which I dreamed out, and prayed for, and fully anticipated my entire adult life. Instead, the bitter person views the good fortune of someone else as more evidence that they have not been given a fair shake themselves.
I hate what these associates did to me and I just want to know, what should I do, to guard myself from feeling like this? Beyond a seven-digit bank account and a title beside your name, being fulfilled and happy as an individual only takes one simple rule: celebrate life and have the right perspective to accept its imperfections. They are still going through a tough time health wise, and I am trying to be a good friend and stick by them. What helped me overcome my bitterness the most was learning to forgive and let go. Here are the of bitter people who are cynical and negative. Do you converse to correct and impose your own ideas or do you listen and positively contribute to the conversation? I saw the person who has hurt me terribly still living very good and has a great achievement in his job this afternoon on the Internet. If you can do this, you'll become a non-smoker and never look back. Do you deserve love without doing anything at all, or do you feel you have to deserve love? Granted, if the are pervasive in your life then it is possible that it could be the cause for the way some things turn out, but we also have to take responsibility for things.
If you give them some insight into why they are bitter, and why it is really just a choice they are making, then they may start to see things differently. And yes, emotions are anything but linear. But then get out there and do what you can to get that support. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. Some people are ok with being hostage to cigarettes. They hold on to the pain and stay bitter as they think about how that person mistreated them. All interesting questions to start asking.
This specific article was last reviewed or updated by Dr Greg Mulhauser, Managing Editor on September 19, 2011. I find that I still feel very sick and angry. Read our article on tips for how to find low cost therapy here bit. And bitterness is also poison for the person who harbors it. Vengeful and spiteful, they seek to cause torment in the lives of those whom they view as being inadequately caring or inattentive towards them. This one is hard to hear, but the sooner you can accept it, the better. Is overcoming bitterness worth the effort? An emotion is an emotion: it comes and goes, rises and fades.
In my opinion, it is a complete waste of your time. It is basically a childish habit that you need to avoid. How much money or financial security is your inner peace worth? This sort of pattern is also self-sabotage, it sabotages the good things we have. We hope you find the courage to do so. I am praying to God to stop this and get healthy.
When was the last time you gave someone the thumbs up? If you call them on these traits and make them look in the mirror when it comes to how they treat you, they may reconsider how they act around you. Please leave a comment and let me know if you have any stories or questions. I really need to forgive and let this go. You alluded to your history, in your letter, but you did not identify the cause of your bitterness. But as stressful as it might be, such a confrontation is preferable to enduring a relationship that maintains the status quo. Only you can come to a definitive answer. Spying on others can also be addictive.
I hope that things get better for you. If your friends and loved ones are great listeners with no agenda, perfect. So how can you convince a bitter person that something might be wrong with the way they are thinking, especially given the characteristics that bitterness suggests as listed above? Now his brother has turned bitter and is rude to everyone irrespective of how they behave with him. When you can accept that some people, even the people that you love, are bitter and may never change, then you can deal with them better. I talked about this in a previous post and this is certainly true for bitterness as well.