Assuming we never run into each other or each other's mutual friends, and nothing else comes up that changes the situation. This also makes me feel guilty, even though I don't think it's rational, but I feel as if I let her down because she loved me when I was overweight, and now that I'm finally someone she could be proud to be with physically , she's not getting that chance. What she thought, I can only imagine. Since then and in relationships after that, I have been able to maintain all the healthy things that are good for me as well as the relationship so I know that that particular relationship was not at all healthy for me. Only you can know what works best for you. After we got back together, it all went out the window because I was dealing with a relationship that wasn't good for me.
But you are right it does seem like an open door of communication for her and like she might feel that im right there whenever she wants. I think I did try restarting the relationship once, it was kind of a disaster, but he's actually the only ex I ever stayed friends with later on. I love him so much, at least who I thought he was. We had ups and downs, as all relationships do, but I felt we weathered the storm well and fell more deeply in love as time passed. You may feel certain about staying together, but he may not, which could have been true even before opinions from other people were involved. Personally, my life is going well, better than I could ask, really.
Sex is way easier to have than digging in and doing the work. It also keeps you hanging around thinking he'll want you back at some point in the future which never happens. So it'll be better to stay good friends if you really really care about the other person and be good to each other. As you both get on with your lives separate, things will come into play. It was more circumstantial than anything else. If, however, he finds that he wants to break up, then at least he will do it because he wanted to. I made full story in details how it happened and when ever he will came to my mind I repeated same story sometimes loud.
Getting opinions from outside can be helpful in making informed decisions, but I agree with you in that the decision is up to the people who are in the relationship. We are both 17 and I know that sounds very young but you know how high school relationships go. I think he is having a hard time understanding that. But hey, now you're free, to try new things, to forget me. I just put her at the bottom of my list and try and ignore it. So it's just confusing to say the least.
I haven't cried in a couple days, and I think I've definitely accepted the breakup. Currently he is dating someone else. For you being involved with your heart is a lot tougher. Honestly, what was he thinking? Our issues Every relationship has it's problems throughout. We kept trying to make it work even though neither of us demonstrated trying to change for the better of our relationship. There are times I hate him but some times I still hoping for second chance.
So who knows what he's thinking, or what he just said out of awkwardness? I just don't know if this is the game you want to be playing. We had the hard situation of being members of a group of friends so it would be quite hard to actually cut off all contact and never see each other again, but still, I should have tried harder, at least not to go out with him alone. No need to be sorry, it's really great to have someone else in the same position - well, not great for either of us, but you know what I mean. Sometimes I am scared I will regret it, but most of the time I feel confident that we made the right decision. Well I don't know if you've thought about this one.
I feel like we're there again. If you want to be friends, that is fine, but there is no reason to talk every single day. If it's aha, he was the one, I'd like to store that away in my brain and live my life knowing that we will cross paths one day because he's open to it. Whatever it means to you, you have to have time to heal. He said he just wanted to be single again, not caring for all thatwas good. He than came to apologise and told me how he loves me and that he cant loose over someone else, i forgave him… After some coupler months he dumped me. You cry, you feel shattered, and you feel like things will never be okay in the world again.
Not to use your case as an example, but it also reminds me that my Ex and I are extremely fortunate to have done this before marriage and, even more importantly, before having children, which would have been 2 years down the road or so. For 4 months we tried to be just friends but its doesn't work. We started planning the wedding. Basically, I had a mutual break up with my boyfriend a few days ago, which was over what I think are some very fundamental - but maybe transient - issues. On the good days, I feel happy and confident, on the bad, I yearn for her embrace.