She talks bout future plans bout her husband,Infact she has told tat he takes care of her needs better than me. I have wondered whether I can even cope with this whole process…. Will he be able to trust you if you ever end up together after he has watched you deceive your husband. She has both of you dancing to her tune. The answer then, when thinking about the bliss of being with the married person we have fallen in love with is to divert you attention to imagining, with all your senses, what it would be like to actually be involved with someone who is attainable and who has similar qualities to the love you cannot have.
Could you love her husband's child? I do know that it coluld be a heartbreak for me whether she stays or goes as far as the marriage. Finally, it has happened - been 4 months now. So, the best thing for you to do is send her back to her relationship to figure out if she wants to keep it and make it better, or leave it and eventually start something up with you. I tried the friend thing with her back in jan -feb and that didnt work. I met her online replying to a story she wrote asking what she meant in the story. Believe me, it can get very messy. He says very sweet and caring things to me all the time but I wonder if they are all just lines to keep me interested and am afraid to open up to him.
She exposed after a week or 2 that her husband cheated on her 3 yrs ago. Dr J are there any warning signs here I should be concerned about or does this all sound like a good idea? Your work, your friends , your parents , all those things are very very important. That was not what she wanted, and she pursued me. The problem with love triangles is the married or committed lover does not want to leave his or her spouse. This is the thought and feeling I was trying to convey in my post. I hope she finds it in her heart to be with me. Now if your husband does not respond to this, that tells you a lot.
I doubt this is going to help anyone. A course of treatment to help him learn how to better live with his feelings may be in order if he is interested. Hope you keep finding useful love-life info on it. My husband has never been rude to me in our 11 yr of marriage, but none of my questions about his loyalty to our marriage has been answered. Leaving this relationship will be difficult at best. He rather did speak to me about his mistress and how she left her husband to be with him. As I grow older I am unable to live this life of lies to my family.
She feels aweful about doing this to her husband, even though she doesn't love him. Yes we have sex and are intimate. She's been living separate for 9 months now. Even her husband found pictures and a video where we were together, I thought that would end the relationship, she was mad at me, but her marriage continues anyway the 5 next years we were together and now. I hope this brainstorming has been helpful to you. Now one night my sister and myself were having a heart to heart about relationships. However, staying with their husband provides other benefits.
Money and love are simply not in the same league if you know what I mean. Find a professional person you feel comfortable telling this story to. This is after they had been to counselling, after her declaration of not feeling love for him, after telling him about a lot of things she was not happy with! As a matter of fact, the surest path to remaining stuck in the morass of the feelings we have for such a person is attempt, by force of will, to extinguish them. She really loves me and I have never been so happy in my life with somebody. Twice I fell for that and twice I came away heart broken. I played the married wife cheating on her man.
It went down hill in a matter of a week or two. My heart goes out to anyone in this situation be it the other man or the other woman. Society has failed to help marriages succeed. Not necessarily how I remember it, but whatever. Build good reading and learning habits. Bad part is her husband worked for the same company and I had previously worked with him. That she would most likely have to be friends with the new girl, and that our relations would cease at that point.
Spend time with your friends — you may have neglected them since the affair began, so make an effort to renew your friendships. I have never been hurt like this before. A male reader, anonymous, writes 19 May 2007 : I don't know if any of us in this situation can give any advice to another. This is not just to prevent either of you from doing something you may regret, but it also reduces any romantic or provocative actions. We started to meet after work at secret places and then kissed passionately for the very first time but I wasn't certain about a lot of things about her marriage. She herself may move from whatever need she has to be the matriarch in control of a desiring group of men, to figuring out how to deepen your own love life. As ten years passed we started talking again for two years we have developed feelings for eachother and the bond feels stronger than it ever was.