I know I have made some mistakes in the past, and I have screwed up royally, but she told me she forgave me. It was not a nasty breakup , either. You may love your boyfriend, but he may be in love with you and infatuated by someone else. However, for some of us the process is mostly internal. I'm afraid then she might get mad and it would only pull us apart farther? But if I even mention I can't do something for her or I can't hang out sometimes because of homework, she gets so mad at me. You should make your limits clear.
She tries to rationalize it by saying she's only joking, but she doesn't know how crappy it makes me feel. In a way being friends with the ex is false hope. Not what you want to hear but its a good solid decision, rather than being wishy washy and her stringing you along. Talk to her about what she is doing and how that makes you feel. If some one treats you disrespectfully, you need to tell them that is unacceptable. So when you stop giving him or her that attention and comfort the entire dynamic will change and in time you will once again become a challenge that they will want to take on! Alternating between love and anger is a natural part of healing.
You may find yourself feeling unloved a lot more than you like. I vowed to always keep her safe when I learned that. It hurts when your boyfriend is mean, but remember that no relationship is perfect. I would never have in my wildest dreams imagined he would disappear on me and block me let alone start bitching about me over a span of a few weeks. My dad told me a story not unlike the one described by you that happened between him and my mom at one point in their marriage.
You have to step away, for months, not weeks. Not calling you as much… feeling a little distant… snapping at you when you say certain things? This will only prolong your pain. Tackling the problem head-on might prompt more questions than answers. I would say this was unhealthy, even in a great relationship. It takes two people working together and communicating that builds a strong relationship that will last. He jokes about when I was born. His being mean is a way to cover up all that is going on and all that he is holding inside.
If she doesn't care about hurting you then she will hurt you worse eventually, it will not get better. Like so many before you, I will provide you with tips and tools and support all along the way to ensure that you meet your objectives and be more fulfilled in your love life. Actions speak more than words, anyway. If she doesn't do this then the relationship isn't healthy, and if you don't stand up for yourself for fear of losing the girl, well that isn't love, that is insecurity. Sure, you can maybe be friends later, but until you view her as you would other female friends, then trying to maintain a friendship is dangerous I think because you have different intentions.
It is fine to do all of the things you say you do for her from time to time, provided that she appreciates it, reciprocates and maintains respect for you. So it's possible that your boyfriend does really love you and just doesn't know that he is being mean. Not that she didn't have her opinions, and choices. Is it possible that your boyfriend is addicted to something, such as alcohol, drug or even video games? A woman can get satisfied in bed and still act that way. It is quite common for mutual friends and family to try to resolve issues that you are facing as a couple and try to help your couple overcome a difficult period. Exodus 20:12 12 Honor your father and your mother, so that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
She won't hold a conversation and barely interacts with my while I'm sitting next to her. Putting on that kind of show for years is exhausting. The difference here is every time she says or does something that makes you feel crappy. But on the occasions that we can bear to be around each other, people comment on how much we look alike. My hope is that you will be able to capitalize on my experience in order to understand why your ex is acting this way; as well as give you tips and tools that can help you change his or her behavior, to make your ex miss you and want to get back together! I had to have the police diffuse a potential situation he was so doped up and verbal last nite. And that hurt stems from caring. Around the age of 8 or 9, I asked my mother who has always been one of my best friends and was always admirably honest with me on two separate occasions.
My dad and I do not have the best relationship. I also have seen a trend when the ex was too nice or feels as if they were taken advantage of; in these circumstances people tend to close up and hold serious resentment which pushes them to argue and be mean at every chance they get! Simple, send her flirty messages that will strike intrigue and make her think sexual thoughts. If you back down from everyrhing. They want to believe that you are not the right person for them and they do not want you to have any false hope. Rather why I don't know but you are in fear of another man having sex with her I just know it. Growing up, I was convinced he hated me. And for him to say that if he gave her a little space she will get mad.