And a loving partner will be there to help dispel any fear you may have. His ex is too much in the picture. Though this ex of his is said to have moved on and has a boyfriend am always so bothered by their ongoings and even my guy wanting me to be friends with his ex drives me nuts. Heaven forbid some people break up on good terms, I guess? By the way, I do trust my boyfriend, but I find it almost an insult to me, or to our relationship, that he would still be in touch with her. So it might be worth the effort to discuss this with your boyfriend and if you are uncomfortable with the exchanges let him know this. Am I being a jealous girlfriend to feel the way I feel? I also know two women who married men they had previously been with before. There is nothing wrong with being assertive and direct.
Even if you have a tight schedule and your boyfriend spends more time with his ex, there is nothing to be worried about. I feel your commentary and response to the poster and about this matter to be rude and misogynistic. She was the most kind caring woman, I would have be proud to have her as a mother in law. Because any man who cuts off his friendships because of an insecure ex will get what he deserves — an irrationally jealous girlfriend who will never trust him no matter what. Good friends with exes who talked and texts in a secretive way then to meet up together? The most annoying thing is that he will drop everything to be with her.
Now it is six months in and we have gone through a lot of talking and working through it. The time to worry is when they feel strongly that you can't just be friends with an ex — because that could be a case of good ol' projection. I think you should learn to be secure and stop stressing. However, like Evan wrote, either you trust him or you get out of the relationship. Then talk about everything else you have in common. I've had two experiences with partners who were friends with their exes — one that was purely platonic and another that ended up in disaster.
It is not goin to be easy for you to be strong but nagging will only make him run to him mor and more. And he needs backups and also a wide range to choose. Sounds like they are still caught up, and you should disentangle. So I personally made the decision to not be as available to her in the past so I could move on and focus on my own relationships. She says she loves me but i dont believe her because shes been saying that when she cheated on me. Stop thinking of yourself as the third wheel and accept the fact that your boyfriend has a girl best friend and she just happens to be his ex. Always present, showed up unexpectedly at events she knew we would be attending, dropped in on him at the office, always keeping him up to date on her family happenings and occasions.
As many of you will be aware, moving across the Atlantic, moving at all, is one of the most stressful things a person can do. But now when ever we talk she thinks communicating includes yelling, cussing, swearing at me if I have a different opinion. I just wanted to say that it is not unheard-of for a partner to go back to his or her ex without warning. When I ended things, he ended things with the other woman also, and fell in love with some-one completely different. If that is where God wants you to be, then that is where you will be.
She goes to his house, to just sit and chat, visit with his mom, doing Bible studies, singing religious songs,forever drops off things at his house,etc. His father cheated on his mother several times, and his mother was very jealous. And there is a reason for that, so don't take it for granted, when you are clearly far more luckier than she is. I think you are particularly sensitive to your own needs and feelings and somewhat clueless about the needs and feelings of your boyfriend. His ex wife cheated on him and so did his ex before me. When she cheated on me, we were together for 2 months.
Banned him from speaking with me! In doing so, I feel I am sacrificing my own happiness for them. I feel she is being condescending as though she sees my discomfort with the whole situation and takes pleasure in it. My friend, Salewa who knew them from living in Omole Estate with them gave me stories of how tight they were and how no one can really put their fingers on any changes in the way they relate since their breakup. They laugh with her, share so many memories, they know all the people they gist about which I have absolutely no idea about. Foley, people run back to their exes all the time. I think this is what Oke and Lillian are realizing.
Thanks Evan and keep up the good work! I think she loves him more than me. He got mad at me for my reaction and said I have to accept that Lillian is like his sister and it was as good as his sister picking out a present for me. My boyfriend John fake name alert was really close with his ex, whom he had broken up with seven years prior. The more descriptive, the better advice the community can give you. What's the point knowing how much he's meeting up with girls if you do nothing about it? I put myself in your shoes and…not a chance. Or do you get the sense they are holding out for someone else, like their ex? Once you are able to do that, you fear with 'slowly' go away. You are the only one that has the answer to your own question.
The blame falls on the current girlfriend and an accusation of insecurity always follows. My boyfriend used me then left me for his ex. I do not enjoy reading upbeat comments from these exes on his social media posts. In fact it would be so much nit a problem that he would never ever have to ask me to do because I had already done so. Why did they break up on the two attempts at a relationship? Whatever you do though do not give your partner an ultmatum.