In friendship and in a relationship, we need someone who can support us, help us in times of need, and someone who is useful to us. This turned out to be a good thing as my sister was diagnosed with clinical depression. And you know what, it happens! This really hurt as all we did was not want to ruin the holidays. I suffer from anxiety and depression which I think predates my wife, but my relationship certainly exacerbates it. I was told there would be sex if I just 'learned to behave and do as I was told'. Usually, the people closest are targeted, and a narcissistic wife is likely to belittle her husband.
She hates anyone I care about and doesn't want me to have anything to do with them. The presence of a narcissistic wife can also be observed in the behavior of the husband. I cannot take not being able to have my friend and to be her friend. She fits the profile completely as described. Man, am I going through the same crap and it's only been two years of marriage. Really now, would you sit with someone and just blink at each other for an hour? And the scary thing is that in retaliation, good people like my other siblings, me, my mother end up having to use some of their nasty tactics just to get through to them.
She even told me before all this mess started that she doesn't really like people, which is interesting to me since she is trying to get into the health care profession. When someone is close to another due to a specific interest. You have discussed what your would be like back when you were 6. She doesn't want any reminders of your friendship around. It just means your friendship is stronger. Me and my bestfriend were friends for a while now.
Like, yeah, sure, everyone will come and go but this bitch is here for life. In my case, it was a healthier self valuing. If challenged, she will defend her position, calling the other party wrong, lying, or deranged. I mean, how could things ever change? My son goes along with her, I feel, just to keep peace in his family. Not everyone in our lifetime can have a bestfriend as solid as yours.
I have read most of these articles and find that the traits these guys describe of their narcissistic wives is amazingly identical to what I see in my spouse. I want to do that with my wife, not alone. If she's no longer running to you to tell her all about her life, then your relationship isn't as strong as it used to be. That would make her vulnerable, which of course, to a narcissist, is forbidden. If someone starts sharing your secrets with others, then they were never your best friend in the first place.
They have held our hand through everything: deaths in the family, graduations, breakups, first house party, and every major milestone that comes along. Good friendships need good fences, not ill will. Nobody else was ever great enough either. Maybe she thinks that she wants to go to a new place and start a new life. We share anything from food to parents! Do you still want to go on with it? If you truly have real romantic feelings for them, you might start withholding information or getting shy when they talk to you. I have a one year old granddaughter and she gets very upset if I see her and I have only seen her four times since her birth. The kids are what keep me going.
I honestly don't know why I didn't just leave her in the first week of marriage and am angry at myself for not doing so. We men are suckers for women we can protect and that is often the way they reel men in. The big deal is that it was you who was called out, not one of your other friends. When friendships suffer When people start looking at things in a different way or set different priorities in life, friendships start to suffer. Are they sitting closer and touching you more? The biggest reason why friends lose contact with each other, or avoid each other, is because they have nothing to gain from the other friend anymore! Perhaps your best believes that she wants to go somewhere else and start a new life like aka Serena Van der Woodson in the Gossip girl. But they all seem a bit distant towards you. She is Always Busy Gone are the days when you two wore your best dresses and and painted the town red.
Whatever you like or value, it's coming for it. Friendships can survive distance, life changes, and tough arguments. The narcissism had a very negative effect on them and I acted as a buffer to try and keep them on track. I decided I could give them a place to relax instead of walking on egg shells all the time. She Removed Your Pictures Did she change her profile picture, which used to show the two of you hugging, to another picture with her new friends? I threw in her face everything. They might actually have more insight into how your friend feels about you than you realize. I saw the signs with my wife before our marriage, but like so many others chose to ignore them.
. At that time, I told her that if I did this, things would change dramatically as I would not be the same person she married with the added pressure of being the sole provider. I swept it of, but she said there was still grass on the patio area which there wasn't. It doesn't always have to be a meal or drinks. We did have a few laughs in catching up but that was as far as it got.